"I'm Not Finished ": Transforming Interruptions into Executive Presence in Male-Dominated Industries
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Walk into a construction site, trading floor, or engineering lab, and you'll likely notice the same thing: a sea of men with perhaps a few women navigating these professional waters like salmon swimming upstream. In these male-dominated industries, "being the only woman in the room" isn't a figure of speech but a daily reality.
In my coaching work –and in my own career—I've noticed how these industries develop distinct communication cultures that were NOT designed with women's voices in mind.
One client of mine, Lia, a brilliant engineer, told me she practiced her technical presentations twice as long as her male colleagues "just to be taken half as seriously" and to avoid "being interrupted in the middle."
I wasn't surprised. Research shows women are interrupted 2.8 times more frequently than men in professional settings. It's like someone else walking through a door that you're clearly about to walk through. And in male-dominated industries, these interruptions can significantly impact your ability to demonstrate expertise and drive results.
But here's the good(ish) news: interruptions are predictable, and with the right techniques, manageable. Here are five strategies I've recommended to my colleagues, clients, and friends who are tired of playing "try to finish a sentence" at work:
1. The Direct Approach
Maybe it's because I'm a sixth generation New Yorker, but I believe nothing beats saying what you mean. When interrupted, take a breath and simply state: "I'd like to finish my thought." No apology, no frustration, no inner monologue playing out on your face – just a neutral, confident redirection.
Try saying: "I appreciate your enthusiasm, Ed, but I'd like to finish explaining my analysis first. As I was saying about the quarterly projections..." (Note the lack of "sorry" or "excuse me" – those words aren't required when you haven't done anything wrong.)
Or this: "Hold that thought for just a moment—I have one more important point to complete. Then I'm eager to hear your perspective." (Translation: "I'll listen to you after you listen to me.")
2. The Continuity Bridge
When you're interrupted and unable to regain immediate control (it happens to the best of us, including Supreme Court justices), wait for the natural pause and then create a verbal bridge back to your point.
For example: "To circle back to what I was saying about the client acquisition costs…"
Another option: "Let me reconnect to my earlier point about vendor selection…"
This technique works because it maintains the thread of your contribution while acknowledging the conversation flow. You're not starting over and you’re not asking permission – you're continuing an important point that deserves to be heard in full, not in fragments.
3. The Alliance Method
Even the most confident voices benefit from support. (After all, even Beyoncé had Destiny's Child before going solo.) Before important meetings, have a brief conversation with trusted colleagues.
Try this approach: "Mark, I'm preparing some important points about the infrastructure proposal. If I get cut off during my explanation, would you mind helping redirect the conversation back to me?" This isn't asking for rescue – it's strategic partnership.
Then your ally might say something like: "Actually, I'd really like to hear Pooja finish her thoughts. I think she had some critical insights we shouldn't miss."
Something as simple as "I'd like to hear Sang complete her analysis" from a respected peer carries tremendous weight and reinforces the value of your contribution. And that peer doesn't have to be a man! Women supporting women isn't just nice – it's necessary.
4. The Strategic Pause
There are few communication techniques more powerful than a well-timed pause. Practice incorporating deliberate pauses between your main points.
Listen to how this sounds: "Our customer research identified three critical pain points. (PAUSE – and I mean a real pause, not just the time it takes to inhale) The first is response time. (PAUSE) The second involves technical support accessibility. (PAUSE) And finally, pricing transparency."
Or try: "Our site inspection found three problems. (PAUSE) First, the foundation needs reinforcement. (PAUSE) Second, the support beams need bracing. (PAUSE) Finally, the roof design needs changes."
These pauses aren't moments of weakness – they're moments of emphasis.
These strategic silences serve two purposes: they emphasize your key messages and make interruptions more obvious to everyone in the room. When someone jumps into your thoughtful pause, the intrusion becomes more apparent – hopefully, even to them.
5. The Framing Technique
Set clear expectations about what you're planning to address before delivering your points. Think of it as creating a verbal outline that signals "I'm not done yet."
For instance: "Before we move forward, I want to share two quick observations about this proposal. First... and second..." This creates a mental checklist for your listeners.
Another effective approach: "I've analyzed the quarterly results and have three brief takeaways that will impact our strategy. I'll walk through them in order of priority."
This verbal framing acts like a placeholder, signaling you have a complete thought to share. Interruptions become more awkward (one would hope) when everyone knows you're midway through a structured, thoughtful contribution.
It's sad but true: The professional world wasn't designed with women's voices as a priority – particularly in male-dominated industries. But remember: your expertise deserves space. These techniques aren't about being aggressive or defensive; they're about ensuring that the valuable perspective you bring gets the consideration it deserves.
What techniques have you found effective when facing interruptions? I'd love to hear your experiences in the comments. And if you've ever fantasized about having a mute button for certain colleagues... well, you're not alone.
Deborah Grayson Riegel MSW, PCC
Deborah Grayson Riegel is a keynote speaker and consultant who teaches leadership communication for Wharton Business School and Columbia Business School. She is a regular contributor for Harvard Business Review, Inc., Psychology Today, Forbes, and Fast Company. The author of Overcoming Overthinking: 36 Ways to Tame Anxiety for Work, School, and Life, she consults and speaks for clients including Amazon, BlackRock, KraftHeinz, PepsiCo, and The United States Army. Her work has been featured in worldwide media, including Bloomberg Businessweek, Oprah Magazine, and The New York Times.
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